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“F” is for Facebook (don’t laugh)

Grateful April in the A-Z Blogging Challenge
Traveling back home from the funeral on Friday, I
forced the car to detour to a Starbucks so I could use the Wi-Fi and post my
blog for the letter “E,” which I had written during the earlier 3-hour drive.
I’m not sure whether the Starbucks stop (and the idea that my blog was important
enough to make the stop) created curiosity in my children or if their newfound
interest in my writing is a direct relation to seeing their names in print, but
when we got moving again toward Bakersfield, the questions
“So, do you know what ‘F’ is going to be?” asked one.

Another, looking sideways, answered for me. “Duh!
Faith. What else would she write about?”
“I think she’s going to write about freedom,” said

Freedom, faith, fall, friends, family—they gave me
some interesting options, but it did me no good to plan ahead. I’d just change my mind
when I woke up anyway. So it is today that I’ve discovered the “F” for which I
am grateful. And don’t laugh. Facebook.

Facebook: This funny little social media site that has taken over how much we know about each other’s lives. What did life look like prior to Facebook? How did we know, for example, when our friends were working out, saw what they were eating for dinner or where they were Right. At. That.

It’s OK, I get it. We like inviting our friends into
our lives, allowing them to get to know us better.

But what about the photos women take of themselves
from the thighs down, lying out by the pool? I consider myself in decent shape,
but that’s a bit revealing, isn’t it? I mean, it seems to invite criticism of
the most hated part of our bodies. I’m not sure if we are supposed to envy your
fabulous pool time or send your thighs a link to a gym

What about the veiled insults smartly couched in a
public status update meant for just one person?
I’m sure many differences of opinion have been ironed out using such a
superb tactic.

But again, I get it. I don’t think Facebook is for
everyone, though. If you have an above-average amount of angst, relationship
issues, are a man hater, or are an overzealous champion of EITHER side of the gay marriage or
abortion debates, perhaps you aren’t getting the most out of your Facebook
experience because you are so busy trying to announce your opinions to anyone
unfortunate to be in your newsfeed that day.

Here’s why I’m grateful, though, to

Prior to joining Facebook in 2008, I had lost contact with most of my
classmates. And, as it turns out, they’re pretty cool adults. We share photos,
triumphs… and losses. I learned that I have praying friends, friends who rescue
animals, pay it forward, serve our country, and support me no matter

I can keep up with family, share my writing, and learn
what is important to both new friends and old friends. My mom can see what her
grandchildren are doing, and—yes—you can occasionally see what I made for dinner
or that I’m having a glass of wine. You may even see a photo or two of Halloween

You won’t, however, catch my freckled thighs lying out
by the pool. Unless they are covered with stage blood and latex wounds. Now that
would be cool.


  • Frances Stiles

    Great Post, Dana! Love the idea about the stage blood and latex wounds!!

  • Megan

    I do love facebook- although sometimes I need to take a break from it every once in a while.

  • Kym Showers

    Haha! Not laughing AT you…giggling WITH you….. I'm a fan of Facebook, too!! LOvE staying connected…celebrating…encouraging…BEING inspired… everything great about FB. For me. All the best reasons!! And…. Not to mention….I mEt you on FB!!! So…there you have it!!! Another amazing post… thanks, cute girl:)))

  • Craig Edwards

    I agree with you fully – social media can be a wonderful way to catch up with those we're no longer physically close to! Cheers!

  • Jer

    It's easy to picture life without much of facebook (I like Grumpy Cat and sarcastic Willy Wonka as much as the next person, but I could manage get by without them) but it's sad to imagine life without all the family and friends (like you) that wouldn't be in my life without it. Let's face it, before facebook, letter-writing had been a dead art for years, except for a few cranks with time on their hands, and most of the people we sorta knew in high school, nice as they may be just aren't people we'd pick up the phone and talk to out of the blue. But with facebook, comments become conversation starters and we keep in touch with friends and get to know them better.

  • Grover

    I thought about giving up the internet for Lent and then realised this includes Facebook and decided it was a ridiculous idea 😉

    Inane Ramblings

  • Dana Martin

    haha ^^ Laughing at Grover! Absolutely ridiculous, that's right! 🙂 And Jer and Kym… best part of Facebook is having connections to you both, who I consider some of the better reasons to stay plugged in to social media. And to everyone else… cheers and thank you for the kind words. I'll be by to see you all sometime today. <3


  • Joan Raymond

    Not laughing at all on your choice for today. I've connected with relatives, friends and a whole lot of awesome writing buddies. 🙂

  • KT Did

    I actually have just friends (real friends) on FB. It has worked out well with my 40 year reunion also. I have also used it when my motorcycle broke down in San Francisco and had an immediate response to get me help. Being a woman motorcycle rider, it really makes a difference knowing someone will get the message, and fast! Everyone is so connected with the push to the phone, almost instant. I'm just waiting for Mr. and Mrs. Jetson to arrive LOL!
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  • Jonathan

    I definitely see where you're coming from. Without Facebook I wouldn't be able to keep up with much of my mom's side of the family, which is spread out from Baltimore to St. Louis. They are my favorite bunch of ladies, so to go without some form of instant contact with them would be tough.

  • Stephsco

    Yeah, Facebook certainly brought the masses to social media, and with that, everything good, bad, or mundane. My mom summed it up pretty well when she said Facebook was boring because she doesn't care what someone had for dinner. I suggested she find more interesting friends 🙂 Or skip facebook and join twitter! At least the tweets are shorter and there are fewer weirdly invasive photos.

  • Robin

    Facebook is a mixed bag. It is excellent for keeping up with friends. Of course, as you pointed out, you might discover that some of those friends will light up your newsfeed with things you would rather not see or read. Gah. AND it does you no good to post anything remotely related to politics, religion, or civil liberties, because you are only bound to make someone angry. In other words, sharing your opinion about what means the most to you on Facebook is likely to put you straight from frying pan to fire.

    I have learned that if I want to blog about stuff close to my heart, I do it here where people show respect for one another. If I want to post goofy pictures, I do it on Facebook. It is a wonderful social network that has specific boundaries that MUST be respected for your own mental health.

  • Andy

    It's a long story…but Facebook brought my friend back to life (kind of). Read about it if you'd like… http://theandyboyd.blogspot.com/2009/10/facebook-brought-my-friend-back-to-life.html

    Love the post!

  • Connie Gruning

    Facebook is a love hate for me. I know I need it for my blog to thrive…. and I need it to learn what my adult children are doing (They never call!!) Returning your visit!
    A to Z buddy
    Peanut Butter and Whine

  • Annis Cassells

    I've enjoyed getting to know folks better via Face book, including YOU. Thanks, Dana. xoA

  • Hilary Melton-Butcher

    Hi Dana .. I'm impressed you can force your car to stop at Starbucks! But equally Facebook leaves me cold .. but then I don't have kids or grandkids and I guess my day to day life isn't that interesting .. I can see the advantage of it though.

    No – my thighs can stay exactly as they will be – large, thin, dimpled, beautiful – but away from glaring eyes!!

    Fun post though .. with thoughts re the funeral .. cheers Hilary

  • Kathy

    LOL, you pretty much nailed it. Face Book is all those things!


  • Dana Martin

    Thanks for all the great comments!! I will be visiting all of you if I haven't already!! <3

  • Kathy Wiechman

    Wonderful right-on post! Facebook is how I learned my niece was pregnant, my nephew got a new job, & my son was looking for a new apartment.

  • Jay Noel

    You're right. Social media – FB in particular – has good and bad. I have family all over the world, and it's been great being able to catch up with them.

    But the political vitriol can get too much, and I read somewhere that a lot of people get depressed when they get on FB and see all the positive stuff in people's lives. We forget that almost all of us only post the good things 95% of the time.

    Heck, I'm jealous sometimes myself. Seems like everyone is going away on some exotic vacation all the time!

  • J.L. Campbell

    Hi, Dana,
    Facebook has helped me reconnect with many of my high-school friends, as well. As top putting my legs on display – so not happening. You have to wonder what we're thinking when we do some things.

  • Dana Martin

    Interesting insights, everyone! I think social media can be both good and bad — and precisely for the reasons you have mentioned.

  • Dennis

    I have a love hate relationship with FB. I love the technology but hate the intrusion into my life and time. On the other hand, I am able to stay in touch with people I care about and rarely have time to interact with. So, as you say, it can be both good and bad. I find more good than bad.


  • Arlee Bird

    Facebook does offer some interesting opportunities. I'm rarely on it unless my kids tag on a photo of my grandkids. That's always pretty cool since they live too far for me to see them often. Facebook is a good way to catch up with old friends and family members.

    I'm now a follower on this blog (thought I was already, but I like to check sometimes just in case).

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